Dr Dosti Regmi Blog

This topic taps into the fascinating dance between mindfulness and neuroscience. The human brain is not naturally wired to live in the present moment . Instead, it defaults to what’s called the Default Mode Network (DMN) , which is more about mental time travel —thinking about the past, anticipating the future, or engaging in self-referential thought (like inner monologues, daydreams, or worrying). This network comprises areas like the medial prefrontal cortex, posterior cingulate cortex, and angular gyrus.   While the DMN plays a crucial role in constructing our sense of self and enabling complex cognitive functions, its dominance can lead to excessive mind-wandering and rumination, which are often linked to stress and anxiety. The DMN kicks in when you’re not focused on a specific external task .  It includes regions like the medial prefrontal cortex , posterior cingulate cortex , and parts of the parietal lobe .  It’s heavily associated with:  Mind-wandering,...

The catastrophe life: There’s a line in the movie Zorba the Greek where Zorba, the irrepressibly happy protagonist, describes his life as “the full catastrophe!” Zorba isn’t being negative – far from it. He’s alluding to the fact that a rich life is woven from great happiness and great disasters, as well as small pleasures and minor irritations. And you can't close yourself off to life's irritations and disasters without also closing yourself off to its joys. Confront life’s catastrophes head-on and your life’s joys will also be intensified. Mindfulness guides you to experience the present moment. A 2012 Harvard study found that we feel calmer, more stable, and happier when our minds are focused on the present instead of the future or the past. Here’s a simple mindfulness exercise to try out. Take three raisins. Observe the first raisin closely. What does it look like? How does it smell? How does it feel between your fingers? Then put the raisin in your mouth and begin to chew...

The Impact of Stress and the Power of Mindfulness Scientific evidence of the debilitating effects of stress on the human body, along with its evolutionary origins, was highlighted by Robert Sapolsky in his book "Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers". This work underscores the profound impact stress can have on human health and well-being.  In recent years, there has been growing interest in mindfulness. Defined in modern psychological terms as "paying attention to relevant aspects of experience in a nonjudgmental manner," mindfulness involves the non-judgmental acceptance and investigation of present experiences. This includes body sensations, internal mental states, thoughts, emotions, impulses, and memories, all aimed at reducing suffering and increasing well-being. Historically rooted in Buddhist practices, particularly as described in the "Satipatthana Sutta", mindfulness has been secularly integrated into psychology. One of the first significant incorporation...

पुरै गिजामा एउटा मात्रै दाँत  तैपनि बुढी आमाको मुस्कान कति मिठो ।।

मेरो जिन्दगी, मेरो भोगाई ; मेरो प्राप्ति, मेरो अप्राप्ति ; मेरो हार, मेरो जित; मेरो सम्बन्धी, मेरो बैरी; मेरो मान, मेरो अपमान; मेरो दौडधुप, मेरो सुबिस्ता; खोइ जति नै मेरो मेरो भने तापनि  सबै सबै कुरामा आफैंलाई गयल पाउँछु । #Absentself #Sleepwalking through life. (Painting: Sleepwalker by Pirner)

Less parenting is better parenting. Instruct less. They will listen when we instruct less. Don't be harsh when they make mistakes. They will be scared to make mistakes. Mistakes are opportunities to grow. Confident kids are not those who do not make mistakes. Confident kids are those who are not scared to make mistakes. When your child is loud, angry, and disrespectful, Do you get louder, angrier, and even more disrespectful? Don't compete with them. Regulate your emotions and show them better behaviors. Be calm and firm in your reply. Breathe and regulate your emotions. Children learn from us. To raise emotionally intelligent children be a model. Name your feeling and describe how you feel and how you deal with it and tell them that it will get better in some time. Children stop listening to you either because they don't feel good about the way you respond or because you instruct too much. Never tell them that everything will be okay but tell them that we all feel bad at ...

We say "I want happiness." If we let go of ego (I) and desire (want), Happiness is all that remains. The path is to slow down and diffuse the fog of thoughts. Living life at a fast pace is like listening to a beautiful song at 2x speed. You will miss the music and the melodious vocals will be distorted. The fog of thought can pass me, but cannot bury me. The thoughts are a separation between me and existence and life. Life and existence is always flowing. There is no static truth to be searched, but life to be experienced. Even a bad dish is far better than a nice cookbook. Let go of all the cookbooks you carry in your brain. I was meditating on the windchimes. There, I started to compare it with the sound of the bells in the mule's neck during my trek to Annapurna. The sun was similar, I compared. Maybe the mental vacation made me feel good. But when I let go of all attribution, meaning, and thought process, the sound actually flowed through me.  Be happy and be kind. Hu...

Expression in every intense moment of human existence, be it a word, a broken word, or a silence, needs at least a thousand philosophical footnotes for explanation.  ~Dosti Regmi "Things are simply the way they are. They don't give us suffering. Like a thorn: Does a sharp thorn give us suffering? No. It's simply a thorn. It doesn't cause suffering to anybody. If we step on it, we suffer immediately. Why do we suffer? Because we stepped on it. So the suffering comes from us."  ~ Ajahn Chah

Everything you touch surely dies.  You never know whether before you or after you die. So why this passion, clinging and attachment? Why this regret for not having a hold on the things we had? Why this anxiety for what tomorrow holds for you. Life is just a welcome and goodbye.  Instance by instance. Moment by moment. मान्छेले पक्डिन पनि जन्नुपर्छ। छोड्न पनि जन्नु पर्छ।।

बच्चाहरू अक्सर घर बाहिर गइरहन्छन् । कहिले प्रितिकर कुरा भेट्छन्, फुरुङ्ग भएर फर्किन्छन्। कहिले अप्रितिकर कुरा भेट्छन्, दुखी भएर फर्किन्छन् । घर फर्केपछि दुवैजना दुवै थोक भुल्छन्, खुसी हुन्छन्, बराबरै खुशी हुन्छन्, बच्चाहरू अक्सर घर बाहिर गइरहन्छन्  अज्ञानी भएर फर्किन्छन्। बच्चाहरू घर फर्किन्छन्,  ज्ञानी हुन्छन्।।

समय , परिस्थिति; मान्छे, माहोल; सबै कता गए कता। अनुभुति मात्रै आफ्नो हुँदो रहेछ। आज सम्म पनि मै सङ छ। नमर्दा सम्म छोड्दिन भन्छ।। आकाशलाई के छ र? रुन मन लागे रुन्छ। हाँस्न मन लागे हाँस्छ। आखिर भिज्ने र पोल्ने मलाई न हो।।

  जिन्दगी, कुन अवगुण लुकाउन यति सुन्दरी भएर आयौ? कुन धारिलो छुरा लुकाएकी छौ यति मुस्कुराउँदै आयौ?

It's not about running away from the crisis and suffering. It's running towards mystery. There are two kinds of ignorance. The one that knows is ignorant and is curious and corrects itself and learns. The other type does not know about its ignorance and never improves itself. There is drama in the world, and also drama in the temple. People are either running away from something or running towards something. We are responsible for our karma. Rituals are the foolishness of trying to delegate it and outsource it. There is a man in Kumbha printing pictures of people and dipping them in gangs to suggest  snan.  Cf. A Brahmin who killed a cow and said it was the hand of Indra. The basic human problem is fear of survival and loneliness since the caveman. He also wanted security and wanted to have companions and a few people around him(tribe). But having food for today was fine. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Today, the basic problem is the same. But all the technologies have com...