Dr Dosti Regmi Blog

मेरो जिन्दगी, मेरो भोगाई ; मेरो प्राप्ति, मेरो अप्राप्ति ; मेरो हार, मेरो जित; मेरो सम्बन्धी, मेरो बैरी; मेरो मान, मेरो अपमान; मेरो दौडधुप, मेरो सुबिस्ता; खोइ जति नै मेरो मेरो भने तापनि  सबै सबै कुरामा आफैंलाई गयल पाउँछु । #Absentself #Sleepwalking through life. (Painting: Sleepwalker by Pirner)

Less parenting is better parenting. Instruct less. They will listen when we instruct less. Don't be harsh when they make mistakes. They will be scared to make mistakes. Mistakes are opportunities to grow. Confident kids are not those who do not make mistakes. Confident kids are those who are not scared to make mistakes. When your child is loud, angry, and disrespectful, Do you get louder, angrier, and even more disrespectful? Don't compete with them. Regulate your emotions and show them better behaviors. Be calm and firm in your reply. Breathe and regulate your emotions. Children learn from us. To raise emotionally intelligent children be a model. Name your feeling and describe how you feel and how you deal with it and tell them that it will get better in some time. Children stop listening to you either because they don't feel good about the way you respond or because you instruct too much. Never tell them that everything will be okay but tell them that we all feel bad at ...

We say "I want happiness." If we let go of ego (I) and desire (want), Happiness is all that remains. The path is to slow down and diffuse the fog of thoughts. Living life at a fast pace is like listening to a beautiful song at 2x speed. You will miss the music and the melodious vocals will be distorted. The fog of thought can pass me, but cannot bury me. The thoughts are a separation between me and existence and life. Life and existence is always flowing. There is no static truth to be searched, but life to be experienced. Even a bad dish is far better than a nice cookbook. Let go of all the cookbooks you carry in your brain. I was meditating on the windchimes. There, I started to compare it with the sound of the bells in the mule´s neck during my trek to Annapurna. The sun was similar, I compared. Maybe the mental vacation made me feel good. But when I let go of all attribution, meaning, and thought process the sound actually flowed through me.  Be happy and be kind. Hug you...

  I can see the Zen wisdom of our inherent Buddha nature (Tathagata garbha) and the importance of transcending mind and ego (Yogachitta) to attain reality resonating in the contemporary Advait Vedanta teachers' quotes. Rupert Spira: “You are the open, empty, allowing presence of Awareness in which everything that appears is known.” “The separate self is simply the activity of resisting what is and seeking what isn’t.” “Peace is our nature. It is not something we need to find or create; it is simply what we are.” “Happiness is the nature of our being, and we share our being with everyone and everything.” “Your being is like the screen on which a movie is playing—it remains untouched by whatever appears upon it.” Jean Klein: “You are already free; you are just dreaming that you are not.” “The person you take yourself to be is only a habit of thought, a repetitive pattern. Let it be, and see what remains.” “Reality is not an object of the mind, it is perceived when the mind is ...

Expression in every intense moment of human existence, be it a word, a broken word, or a silence, needs at least a thousand philosophical footnotes for explanation.  ~Dosti Regmi "Things are simply the way they are. They don't give us suffering. Like a thorn: Does a sharp thorn give us suffering? No. It's simply a thorn. It doesn't cause suffering to anybody. If we step on it, we suffer immediately. Why do we suffer? Because we stepped on it. So the suffering comes from us."  ~ Ajahn Chah