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Zen story: "The other boat is empty." This story teaches a lesson about anger and ego. It goes as follows: A man is rowing his boat across a river when he notices another boat heading straight toward him. At first, he shouts for the other boatman to steer away. As the boat draws closer and still doesn’t change course, his anger flares, and he yells even louder. However, when the boat finally reaches him, he realizes it is empty, adrift without anyone to blame. The story highlights that anger often arises from our assumptions and ego. When there is no one to blame, the anger dissipates. It teaches mindfulness and self-awareness, encouraging us to look inward instead of attributing blame outward. The Zen Cup 1: Once, a person went to the Zen master and complained about a thousand and one petty things in life that disturbed his mind. The master handed him a cup filled to the brim with water and said, "You must carry this cup around the square three times without spilling a ...

We think that the more preferences and choices we have, the more free and affluent we are. We think that the more thoughts we have, the more ideas we have, the more able to form opinions and categorize things, and the wiser we are. But, there is a paradox with the preferences, choices, and opinions. The preferences are bondages.  I had already done the laundry and all of my son's clothes were clean and tidy except the red pullover with Spiderman he was wearing. He was adamant that he wanted the red pullover only because red was his favorite color.  He went to the school with that same stinky dirty red pullover. So what did his preference for red color give him? Maybe he had thought that he had won his way in his little quarrel with me where I had to give up on his choice. In fact, his preference for the red color had refrained him from the choices of the other better clothes options. (Pic:  Moumita Mukherjee)

11/18/2024 People suffer 90% of the time in imagination and 10% of the time in reality. Mindful living in the present/reality can help reduce a lion's share of our suffering. It does not hurt you because others touched you. It hurts when where they touch and where your wound is matches. The fault is in you having the bigger wound rather than others touching you. No one can hurt you without your consent. 11/29/2024 Depression is not the problem with thoughts. Its the problem of vitality and energy. To wake up, do daily chores and try to be useful and kind shit. Thoughts are the fillers filling the unoccupied space in people´s mind. And the thoughts are true about the reality of life. There is suffering and no inherent meaning and path. A vitality filled curious mind can take it as a relief and freedom. If there is no path, its sure that you will never be lost. Life is about awareness, engagement and onepointedness. 12/16/2024 With chatGPT writing a better poem and Grammarly removing...

अर्थको कुरा त हाम्रो आगडी घाम जस्तै छर्लङ्ग छ। आऊ एकैछिन बिना अर्थको कुरा गरौँ ।