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Life is, after all, a story of Love. Love struggling in between the unformidable giants of fragility and mortality. Love's solace comes from its being a dreamer, a. dreamer of divine beauty and its eternal Presence. I find this echoed in the poems of  Rainer Maria Rilke (1875–1926), a Bohemian-Austrian poet, essayist, and novelist, one known for his most introspective, lyrical, and spiritually profound writings. He tries to transcend the human experience of love, art, solitude, suffering, and death as portals into the divine. Born in Prague, Rilke grew up in a strict Catholic household but was drawn early to art and mysticism.  His masterpiece collections, Duino Elegies and Sonnets to Orpheus ,  explore how human fragility, love, and mortality coexist with divine beauty and eternal presence. Rilke lived much of his life in solitude, seeing it as the necessary condition for artistic and spiritual awakening. He died in 1926 from leukemia, leaving behind a body of wor...

  In the world of cards, “Joker's wild” means that the Joker can become anything — it is freedom, chaos, and unpredictability disguised as play. It doesn’t follow the rules; it bends them. It’s the card that makes the game uncertain, and therefore alive. The King of Hearts , on the other hand, stands for nobility, love, and emotional truth — the sovereign of feeling. Yet, even he is called the “suicide king” because, in the old deck, he seems to drive his own sword through his head. It’s a haunting image: the heart-led one undone by his own passion. So when Céline Dion sings “King of Hearts, Jokers wild” in “Immortality,” the phrase feels like a mirror of life itself. Love — sincere, tender, regal — plays its hand in a world ruled by chaos. The heart may be noble, but the game is wild. Metaphorically, it speaks of the human condition: Love ruled by unpredictability. A soul of sincerity surrounded by tricksters. A noble heart navigating shifting rules. The tension between ...

Satisfaction  It's a satisfaction to do what you know you should do. It's a frustration when you don't know what to do. It's hell when you know what you need to do and can't do.

The crescendo of tempo: There’s a rare kind of magic in songs that build gradually — where the melody starts soft and tender, then slowly swells with emotion until it feels like the heart itself can’t contain it anymore. It’s not just about tempo; it’s about the unfolding of feeling — the gentle rise of strings, the deepening of the voice, the subtle layering of instruments that mirror the growth of emotion within you. At first, it’s as if the song whispers — it pulls you in gently, making space for your own quiet reflection. Then, as it grows, something inside begins to stir: a warmth in the chest, a tightening in the throat, a sense of longing and release. When the song finally reaches its peak — that soaring note, that crash of harmony — it’s cathartic. You don’t just listen anymore; you feel . It’s like standing on a hilltop as the wind rushes past — a moment where sound and soul become one. Take “The Power of Love” and "Immortality" by Céline Dion . It begins with inti...

  बदलिँदो आकाश । बादलका टुक्राहरु, छुट्टीछन्  , मिल्छन् मिल्छन्, छुट्टीछन् अनि फेरि मिन्छन्। झरी  बनेर बर्सर्छन्।

मेरो प्रेम कहानी । कुनै नवयोवना, मेरो अंगालोमा यसरि आउछिन् अनि मलाई प्रेम गर्छिन् । म मदहोस भएर उसलाई प्रेम गर्छु। फेरि सोच्छु; उनी पनि बिस्तारै बुढी हुनेछिन्। कुनै दिन रोगी हुनेछिन्। कुनै दिन आलप हुनेछिन्। अनि मैले होश सहित, गहिरो प्रेम गर्न थाल्छु।

This morning I sat to practice — half an hour of Vipassanā , followed by a silent reflection on Advaita . The body was still enough, but the mind was a restless monkey, leaping between unfinished tasks, imagined futures, and subtle self-congratulations for “being spiritual.” At first, I fought the distractions — tightening attention as though I could wrestle the mind into silence. But the more I fought, the louder the inner noise became. Only when I softened — simply noticed the movement — did something shift. The distraction itself became the meditation. I saw that awareness was never disturbed; it was only the contents within awareness that changed shape. Advaita reminds me: the witness is untouched. The waves of thought rise and fall, but the ocean remains ocean. Vipassanā sharpens this seeing — sensation by sensation, breath by breath — showing that each moment, when seen clearly, dissolves into impermanence. Together they teach me that stillness isn’t the absence of thought,...

This morning I sat quietly, asking my body, “Why do I still feel unrest, though I know so much?” It replied, not in words, but as a slow sinking into stillness: “Because you do not trust.” Knowledge, I realized, is the first remedy for ignorance — it lights the path. But once the light is on and I still hesitate to walk, something subtler is missing. That something is trust — the faith that life moves toward balance when I stop forcing it. I asked again, “Is it distraction? Is it weakness of will?” The body answered softly, “It’s a lack of trust, not a lack of knowing.” Just as sleep comes not by command but by surrender, healing and peace arise not from control but from confidence — the trust that the body knows, the breath knows, the Being knows. Because knowledge without surrender is a kind of tension. The body does not like it. The body does its quiet housekeeping — repairing, digesting, balancing — without our permission or praise. Yet the mind, always flickering like a ca...

The fields of modern physics, particularly  quantum mechanics  and  relativity , have been noted by many to contain surprising conceptual parallels with ancient  Hindu  and  Buddhist  philosophies. These parallels often emerge when discussing the fundamental nature of reality, existence, and the relationship between the observer and the observed. ​Quantum Mechanics and Eastern Non-Duality ​Quantum mechanics, the branch of physics dealing with the very small, has introduced concepts that challenge the classical, objective view of reality, resonating strongly with non-dualistic Eastern thought. ​ The Observer Effect and Consciousness (Hinduism, Buddhism): ​ Physics:  The act of observing or measuring a quantum system fundamentally influences its state (e.g., forcing a wave function to "collapse" into a definite particle state). The  Observer Effect  suggests that a purely objective, independent reality may not exist at the quantum level. I...

Rupert Spira’s Teaching We Are Awareness Spira’s entire teaching rests on one direct recognition: “Consciousness is not something we have; it is what we are.” All thoughts, feelings, and sensations appear in awareness, are known by awareness, and dissolve into awareness. We mistake ourselves for the body–mind, but what we truly are is the knowing presence in which the body–mind appears. He often uses the analogy of the movie screen: all scenes come and go, but the screen (awareness) remains untouched. Realisation is not an attainment, but a recognition of what is already the case. The Nature of Experience Every experience is made only of consciousness. “Whatever it is that knows our thoughts, sensations, and perceptions is not itself a thought, sensation, or perception.” When we look deeply, we never find a world apart from knowing. This is the non-dual insight: there are not two things — a perceiver and the perceived — but one reality appearing as both. In Vedantic terms...

  The Wisdom of the Body Some days, I feel that my body is far wiser than I will ever be. It speaks so quietly that I often miss it—under the noise of thought, the flicker of screens, the urgency of plans. Yet, when I pause, when I let the noise settle even for a moment, it begins to hum. A subtle pulse, a tension here, a warmth there—the body saying, I am here. I have been here all along. I realize how little the mind truly cares for this soft creature it inhabits. It pushes it, feeds it things it doesn’t need, keeps it awake when it longs for rest, and intoxicates it when it hungers for presence. The mind chases pleasure, control, and stories—it drinks to forget its restlessness, scrolls to silence its boredom, thinks endlessly to avoid the simple ache of being. And yet the body keeps whispering, “I only want to breathe.” When I notice how often my mind overrides my body, I feel a quiet sorrow. I drink coffee when my stomach is already tight. I stay awake long after my eyes burn....

  Takeaways from Focusing by Eugene Gendlin Felt Sense The term was popularized by Eugene Gendlin (in Focusing, 1978). It refers to a vague, bodily awareness of a situation or meaning — before it is verbalized or clearly conceptualized. It’s nonverbal knowing, a sense that something is there, meaningful, but not yet defined. “A felt sense is not an emotion, but the unclear, preconceptual body sense of a whole situation.” — Eugene Gendlin The tight heaviness in the chest when something feels off, even before you know why. A warm openness in the belly when something feels right or true. A bodily intuition, a “rightness” or “wrongness” of direction, without mental reasoning. In meditation, this is the intuitive texture of awareness felt through the body, not yet named or interpreted. Perceived Sense: Refers to sensory or cognitive perception — seeing, hearing, touching, or thinking about an experience as an object. It is what the mind recognizes through the sense organs and labels. It...

Morning Grounding Prompts (Use one each morning before you start the day or check your phone.) “What is this moment before thought arises?” “Can I begin the day not by doing, but by being?” “If awareness is already awake, what needs to be fixed?” “Let me feel the breath — not to control it, but to remember that life breathes me.” “How can I meet today with curiosity instead of expectation?” Don’t strive to be mindful; simply notice how striving feels. So when you ask, “What is this moment before thought arises?”, you are literally shifting neural processing from conceptual (DMN) to sensory-motor and attentional networks — returning to bare awareness before narrative forms. Midday Refresh Prompts (Ideal for between tasks, during lunch, or walking to your car.) “Am I here, or in the story of here?” “How does the body feel before I label it as tense or relaxed?” (Is the felt sense different from the perceived sense? There is a difference between direct embodiment and conceptualized e...

The Narrowing   It began with anxiety. The word itself comes from angina—narrowing. Anxiety is a bottleneck, a constriction. It is like the birth canal: tight, dark, suffocating. Yet when we pass through it, what awaits is relief, peace, and the opening of a new world. Even pain instructs, if we let it. The task is not to recoil, but to listen, to observe. On the airplane, I felt claustrophobic, pressed in by the cabin walls and the closed air. It reminded me of a tragedy—a medical student who died while exploring a cave, trapped in a passage as narrow as a birth canal. The body suffocates, the mind suffocates, when it cannot see a way through.   The Heart in Its Masks The heart, too, can narrow. A disheartened heart is ugly. An indifferent heart turns cold. A possessive heart creates anger. An assaultive heart wounds. A demanding heart repels. A judgmental heart hardens. And yet, even when told it is wrong, the heart feels pierced. We live caught in craving and aversion, plea...

Implementing the teachings and principles of Vipassana(insight meditation) in daily life involves cultivating mindfulness, wisdom, and equanimity in all activities.  1. Cultivate Mindfulness (Sati)    - Observe the Present Moment: Be aware of your body, sensations, thoughts, and emotions without judgment.    - Daily Activities Meditation: Practice mindfulness while eating, walking, brushing teeth, or even washing dishes—focus fully on the task.    - Mindful Breathing: Take short pauses during the day to observe your breath, anchoring yourself in the present. 2. Develop Equanimity (Upekkha)    - Accept Impermanence (Anicca): Recognize that all experiences—pleasant or unpleasant—are temporary.    - Non-Reactivity: When faced with strong emotions (anger, desire, fear), observe them without reacting impulsively.    - Balanced Response: Train yourself to respond wisely rather than react out of habit. 3. Practice Right Understan...

The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck — When I was in high school, Lakeside in Pokhara—the bustling tourist hub—was my sanctuary for books. I never had enough money to buy them outright, so I devised a little routine: I’d pick a book, read it carefully without folding a single page or leaving even the faintest mark, jot down notes in my worn-out notebook, and return it the very next day. The shopkeeper would give me a small refund, just enough to borrow—or sometimes buy—the next one. It was a cycle of fleeting ownership, a trade between longing and necessity. But then came The Road Less Traveled. Something about it felt different. Maybe it was the weight of its words, the way its lessons lingered in my mind long after I’d closed its pages. For the first time, I didn’t want to return a book. I wanted to keep it—to underline my favorite lines, to revisit its wisdom whenever I needed it. That book wasn’t just another read; it felt like a companion. So I broke my own rule. I kept it. An...

Socrates once said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.” But what does it truly mean to examine life? To examine life is to awaken from autopilot—to live deliberately rather than drift passively through inherited assumptions and societal expectations. It means turning inward, questioning deeply, and choosing to live authentically, on our own terms, with awareness and intention. The Buddha examined life and uncovered its true nature: it is impermanent, unsatisfactory, conditioned, and fabricated. He did not just observe the world—he observed the mind, and saw that the roots of our suffering lie in our reactions to experience. And so, the examination of life begins with examining the mind. The sense of I , me , and mine arises as a reaction, clinging to what is pleasant and pushing away what is unpleasant. But in truth, 98% of our daily life is neutral. We overlook it. Think of the thousand discomforts that are not happening to you right now: no stomachache, no fever, no thirst, ...

Happiness drop by drop The little girl was feeble, fragile, and wounded. I made her swallow the bitter medicine, something bitter than life. Because I had bribed her with a cracker, She gulped it with a grim face, Then reached for the cracker, with a cute little smile and joy. Happiness does not shower upon us. It just leaks, From tiny little cracks, wounds, and holes, often the most neglected ones. And it leaks drop by drop. We have to be ready with our pitcher. And gather it drop by drop.

  “Man is an amphibian who lives simultaneously in two worlds – the given and the home‑made, the world of matter, life and consciousness and the world of symbols.” This is the opening of the preface by Aldous Huxley. Amphibians, like frogs, can live both in water and on land. Likewise, Huxley says that human beings have the capacity to live in: The conditioned , sensory world (like land), and The unconditioned , spiritual or transcendent world (like water). But—just as amphibians are not fully at home in either realm, humans often struggle to reconcile or navigate these two dimensions . Krishnamurti emphasized choiceless awareness , freedom from conditioning, and direct perception of truth without the mediation of thought or belief systems. Huxley highlights that Krishnamurti’s teachings are a bridge or pointer to the deeper, eternal world , helping humans recognize and live from their spiritual nature—not just their psychological or material conditioning....